Marriage is a special contract of permanent union between a man and a woman entered into in accordance with law for the establishment of conjugal and family life. It is the foundation of the family and an inviolable social institution whose nature, consequences, and incidents are governed by law and not subject to stipulation, xxxxxxx (Article 1, The Family Code of the Philippines)
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More than a week ago our househelp went "AWOL". Every Saturday she attends school which usually ends at 5PM. Among all our househelp, I liked this girl the most because she's one with a happy disposition. She follows directions easily although she also has her times of "kapalpakan". Nonetheless, she knows how to listen when she's taught how to do things properly.
My O.C.ness are sometimes taken by others as being too strict, so it's a breath of fresh air when someone understands that I'm just really like this. You just have to know when not to take things personally.
Anyway, 2 Saturdays ago, 9PM came and , let's call her Ms. K, did not come back from school yet. My mother who just arrived home told me that she just received an sms from Ms. K saying that she went home (she lives a bus ride away from our house) and will be back the next day.
Sunday came but there was no Ms. K. My mom tried to call her but her number was already out of the coverage area of the phone networks. The place where she resides is quite far from the city, hence the lack of signal.
Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday until Tuesday the following week, there was neither Ms. K nor any message coming from her. And so the domestic goddess (that's me) made her grand entrance. As if I had any other choice. I was left at home for an entire week doing household chores since my parents went home to our other house in the province. It was college life all over again except I had to take care of two kids too on the side. I want to post their video here doing their laundry wherein an 8-year old kid was teaching his 11-year old brother the proper way of washing their uniforms, but their parents might not be happy with that so it would be best to keep it for my own private laughing consumption.
It was coincidental that at that period I no longer had a job, so less worries (except for the kaching part of course). My only concern during that time was I had lesser hours to read my assignments and prepare for my exams. The man above saw my predicament because a week after, our old househelp, the one before Ms. K, got tired of her provincial life and decided to come back.
It was also that same old househelp who found out from a common friend of hers and Ms. K's that the latter was told by her parents to go home because she was bound to be married to a guy from her tribe. Yes, she was arranged to be married.
Sigh, it was just so sad that this kind of set up still exists. It was also heartbreaking to know that Ms. K was left with no choice but to follow her parents' will and that she was not able to tell this to us herself because she was not allowed to leave their house anymore.
Wednesday morning came and my mom who was at the airport at that time called me up to inform me that Ms. K. contacted her already and admitted the same. She told my mom that she decided to work with us and study at the same time hoping that it could be a way to escape such fate. She was so apologetic because she was not able to say goodbye properly.
It is depressing to know that in this day and age, this practice still exists. This was our second househelp who have been pre-arranged to be married to a man who was not in any way her choice.
There are still a number of women who choose to evade single blessedness for the fear that they would end up growing old alone. Only few are brave enough to accept that being single is not something to be scared of.
Marriage is a commitment that not all, unfortunately, can keep. Honestly I fear the latter more. Taking such risk and the marriage ending up being broken is much frightening than singleness itself.
I have yet to change my perception on marriage, but as of the moment that is my state of mind. I'm not closing my doors to anyone who could make me think otherwise though. I guess it would really take a lot of convincing and patience on his part.
I am thankful that I am left with a choice to be single, married or to be with whomever I decide to be with if ever. Unlike Ms. K. whom I knew wanted to do so much more than what her parents had picked out for her. I just wish that despite the same, her future married life would still be a bliss.
So, if anybody asks me, "Would you want me to fix you up? ", I would say NO in a bit! Unless, that someone would be Zachary Levi or Drew Arellano! herk...herk...
di naman ganun kalayo ang place namin at may signal dun hah. teka sa poblacion ba siya?
may ganung practice pa rin nyan sa district namin sis especially na madami IP's dun sa lugar namin.
ewan saan sya exactly sis. basta sa may kabundukan na part ata na kailangan nya pang bumaba para makakuha ng signal. luoy lagi kaayo.hahay =(